Of course you are related. You are related by marriage.
You ARE family once you marry into the family.
After not having the world's greatest birth family, I was utterly taken aback by the warm welcome I had from some members of my husband's family. It touched my heart and I will never forget their kindness.
Your bolded point above was beautifully made. That's basically exactly what they said to me!
As to the OP, I hope he's giving at least $10k to make such a fuss. Hopefully his granddaughter is not surprised to hear his thoughts on comingling and hopefully his future son-in-law is easy-going and not inclined to bother about "the money issue" of his grandfather-in-law who - presumably - will realize that his future grandkids will be 1/2 DNA of that son-in-law.
(If the OP had concerns about the SIL's character, that makes a difference. But he hasn't mentioned any or being concerned about the marriage at all.)
Statistics: Posted by PeninsulaPerson — Thu Aug 29, 2024 3:18 pm — Replies 63 — Views 4196