What a remarkable insight!
I feel like I need to add here some facts about human behavior. I apologize if this whole thing is TL/DR.
When you feel stressed, your body will want to "do something" that the body, or the dumbest part of your brain, thinks will relieve the pressure. in this situation, it's likely you'll have very little control over your behavior. For many people, this event will damage the relationship. At a sufficient level of perceived stress, people will tend to say something that they can never take back, and the target will permanently lose respect for them. Some people do it very quickly, in the first minute of a marital argument, they'll threaten or try to damage the relationship permanently. The sources of stress can be something really petty and stupid and it can still happen. FWIW. I wish this phenomenon had a name so that people would get to where they expect it and aren't ruining their families by this mechanism, but so far that hasn't happened. People have different "go-to" negative emotions. Depression, fear, shame, fury. The fury people have a hard time. If they suffer a disappointment they'll damage the environment they live in.
Statistics: Posted by garfield_dilbert — Fri Oct 04, 2024 8:10 pm — Replies 50 — Views 4886